Grieving Love and Other Losses.
Today I want to address a topic that is a painful one for all
humans.
Even if you are not in grief someone around you may be.
We all love. There is no doubt that when we are born we are
innately cocooned in that realm. Oblivious to whatever else is out there in the
larger world that we’ve incarnated into, we are all born in a state of divinity.
Have you ever opened the door on a sleeping baby’s room? Have you seen the
white misty cloud that fills the entire space? I don’t speak of the artificial lighting
or the slant of daylight, but the inexplicable hazy aura that surrounds and
perhaps exudes from their tiny personage. It is quite a phenomena.
It is also true that babies retain that divinity within them,
around them, and can hold that space naturally even through traumatic infancy.
It is once chakras begin to interact with this world & its other
inhabitants that the changes begin to occur. And I do not purport to be in the
wisdom of knowing much of such things at this time that I could explain it
right now.
So, it is from the realm of Love that we are born into this
world and it is back to this realm that we go at our transitioning, our death
from this life.
Grieving however is not restricted to the death of a particular
person whom we love (and will continue to love)
Many people grieve over beloved pets and animals, be they near
or distant from them. Particularly in this era, deeper and deeper connections to
all living creatures is becoming a conscious part of our lives. The awareness
that all Life is sacred can raise the feelings of grief in many ways.
So too can grief be felt over the apparent loss of a
relationship, a home, a country of which we belonged, a job to which we were
dedicated, a relocation needed for whatever reason. . . perhaps even a part of
ourselves?
Many Universal Journeyers in this day and age, once they begin
living their conscious spiritual path, may discover unexpected grief from
past-life encounters, relationships and experiences.
It is my intention today to just bring into your awareness the
fact that a person near you may be grieving over something, which to you or
anyone else, may seem intangible or illogical. Logic has no place in grieving,
no place in understanding the pain of a broken heart or shattered spirit.
I have counselled for grief, but from my own personal
experience, it is possible to be grieving for different things at the same time,
on different levels and at different stages. It is also possible to be feeling
grief of a loss then to come to a safe peaceful place within yourself or be
inspired with some form of learned wisdom about that, then begin anew – forever
changed, but more consciously grown and adapting to the new version we have of
the world. Hopefully this will not be of bitterness and blame, but from a deep
inner place of yourself that holds your spirit warmly, comfortingly and open to
engage in such matters in meditative times. Having ‘lost’ someone in my family
at a very young age, I can also attest to the fact that grief may not come to
full fruition or realisation and release until many years later when there
comes a trigger for that event.
We also need due attention and care from our self - Hold Space for ourselves. Support can come also of course from outside
ourselves, especially through these times where things do not seem logical,
clear, explainable or ‘right’ to us, at any given stage of life. Strong intense
unexpected feelings can be unleashed from within us and catch us unawares. Irrational behaviour is a part of the processing that we are trying to come to terms with, trying to explain to ourselves. And so when this fails, we can react to this confusion in ways that are very much out of character.
Give yourself, or the person near you who is grieving, space
and time.
Although it is not Time itself that does the healing as is commonly
quoted:
It is the gathering of the experiences and the continuity of life that
brings healing, albeit never quite total, but perhaps at least bearable.
One of the greatest gifts Mother Nature gives us freely is
Her-Self – the natural world full of comforting sights, sounds and fragrances
can soothe our grieving souls, our broken hearts and confused minds. Even if we
sit upon a wondrous beach with lowered, greyed & clouded eyes, She is still
all around us in Her capacity for great healing and comfort. We need not even
see or be aware of that for it to be so.
And one of the greatest gifts one person can give another is to just be present and Hold Space around the grieving person. Do not take on their grief, their journey is their own, as is yours.
We are complex and complicated beings of Light inhabiting these
humanly bodies. Allow yourself some frailties, some comfort, some soothing and
solace. We are here to experience what it is to be human (even if we do have
other traits within our DNA). We are a whole package, the real deal when it
comes to experiencing real emotions and learning from that. Not all experiences
seem to be ‘good ones’ (and travelling further down the life-path may shine
clearer light upon that). But these experiences including grief are what our
Soul collects along its Universal Journey. It is what makes us a more complete emissary,
member of the Ground Crew of The Source for the Highest Good of All That Is –
including our individual Self.
Take care beautiful Ones and be kind to yourself and others
on
The Universal Journey.
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